To Hell with Patriarchy and Feminism
The future of the male to female dynamics in our world today
Feminism is overrated. Patriarchy is outdated. Hell yea I said that. Our world has evolved beyond patriarchy and feminism. We are now in a world where gender complementarity should be encouraged.
Times have changed. Nowadays economies have advanced, social structures have altered and mindsets have evolved. The pressure is higher today on both sexes especially in the corporate world.
In this article I try to examine why the two concepts are losing power and what they are losing that power to. Interested in taking this ride with me? Come along and lets riiiide.
We have come to the point where men and women should COMPLIMENT each other beyond societal views.
Roles need be lowered down the priority scale and results moved upwards. In the decision making process, the choices we make as men and women should have key indicators we focus on.
We can focus on things like how is this decision helping males or females? Is it solving our problems? Is it efficient? What do we achieve with our methods? Does it even work? These are some major points to consider.
We will agree that both men and women have their own share of advantages and privileges in the society. Men and women nowadays especially couples should focus on what each party can bring to the table.
We should always make sure we are in a win-win situation in male and female interactions.
In a conflict situation we need to reflect; If my ego and selfish interest was not involved how will I solve this issue?
In subjects like leadership, I personally think it is not a debate, it's an indisputable fact that the MAN is designed to be the leader. I believe that that’s how the fabric is designed.
Let me bring a balance to this. Some men are not developed leaders, some are messed up, some are chicken-hearted and indecisive, some are not focused. The consequence of this reality is women who take the lead in such circumstances in order not to stagnate.
Now this is my point. There is more grace, especially in a marriage situations, in a woman leading from behind than leading from the front. This implies the man stays in the POSITION of leadership but the woman being the COUNSELLOR and STRATEGIST for the family vision.
Doubt what I am saying? Ask the Obamas then come and let’s argue. Do same for the Mugabes. You will come back agreeing to the points I have been trying to make here.
As a woman you may be smarter, wiser, stronger than your man but you should not use that to crush him.
You use that to support him. That is the meaning of help meet. Helping him where he is weak and him helping you when you deficient as well.
I have come to realise that the major challenge we have with feminism nowadays is the way it has been presented.There is also a problem with the way it is executed by majority of ladies.
Due to the fact that most ladies are not properly schooled on feminism, most ladies use it to equate themselves to men rather than bringing the men to reason with them of its importance and how it works.
Permit me say that rather than schooling the men on being men, teach them how they can create mutual opportunities for themselves and women. Our society needs to understand that each gender needs to embrace their unique differences.
Yes, you said it correctly; some men enjoy the benefits of the feminist movement but get this, their challenge is the attitude that comes with it. The crushing, difficult behaviour and competitive attitude some of this women put up.
You call them weak men but you cannot use that insult to deny the fact that they have a bad attitude and a broken character.
Women can thrive and have relevance in society without making men “pay” for it.
Women should not try to compete with men. Women can have their place without behaving like they don’t need a man yet go behind using some of them for sex and company while publicly acting tough.
So what’s my take? Men and women should focus on COMPLEMENTING each other rather than COMPETING with each other.
We should focus on INTERDEPENDENCE rather than INDEPENDENCE. We should focus on RESULTS AND RESPONSIBILITY rather than ROLES AND GENDER CLICHÉS.
These I believe is going to make the world a better place.
So what's you view or stand point about this discourse. I will love to have your opinion on this. Use the comments section below and tell me what your stance about this topic is.